25 Things To Do Before You Turn 25
1. Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognize that they actually have your best interests in mind or you forgive them for being flawed human beings, you can’t happily enter adulthood with that familial brand of resentment.
2. Kiss someone you think is out of your league; kiss models and med students and entrepreneurs with part-time lives in Dubai and don’t worry about if they’re going to call you afterward.
3. Minimize your passivity.
4. Work a service job to gain some understanding of how tipping works, how to keep your cool around assholes, how a few kind words can change someone’s day.
5. Recognize freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the diner with a bunch of strangers you’ve just met.
6. Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’ Bachelor’s Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite like you expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a degree isn’t the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure this mess out, I think, probably; the point is you’re not worth less just because there hasn’t been an immediate pay off for going to school. Be patient, work with what you have, and remember that a lot of us are in this together.
7. If you’re employed in any capacity, open a savings account. You never know when you might be unemployed or in desperate need of getting away for a few days. Even $10 a week is $520 more a year than you would’ve had otherwise.
8. Make a habit of going outside, enjoying the light, relearning your friends, forgetting the internet.
9. Go on a 4-day, brunch-fueled bender.
10. Start a relationship with your crush by telling them that you want them. Directly. Like, look them in the face and say it to them. Say, I want you. I want to be with you.
11. Learn to say ‘no’ — to yourself. Don’t keep wearing high heels if you hate them; don’t keep smoking if you’re disgusted by the way you smell the morning after; stop wasting entire days on your couch if you’re going to complain about missing the sun.
12. Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are: the apartment you grew up in, your middle school, your hometown. These places may or may not be here forever; you definitely won’t be.
13. Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and empowering and like something to look forward to.
14. Think you know yourself until you meet someone better than you.
15. Forget who you are, what your priorities are, and how a person should be.
16. Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your every move, find and talk to people who have overcome them. Don’t settle for experiencing .000002% of what the world has to offer because you’re afraid of getting on a plane.
17. Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit at one point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is your favorite pair of pants or your ex.
18. Stop hating yourself.
19. Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that band you already lied about watching, reading, listening to.
20. Take advantage of health insurance while you have it.
21. Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it means writing a gushing fan-girl email to someone whose work you love or telling your boss why you deserve a raise.
22. Date someone who says, “I love you” first.
23. Leave the country under the premise of “finding yourself.” This will be unsuccessful. Places do not change people. Instead, do a lot of solo drinking, read a lot of books, have sex in dirty hostels, and come home when you start to miss it.
24. Suck it up and buy a Macbook Pro.
25. Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship that makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend whose sole purpose in life is making you feel like you’re perpetually on the verge of vomiting. You’re young, you’re resilient, there are other jobs and relationships and friends if you’re patient and open.
I know I didn’t post nearly as much as I wish I did this past year but since I’m going to be focusing on school this upcoming year, I hope I can set aside some time to be more present on Tumblr. Though, I know maybe 1 or 2 people out of the 200 or so followers I have will read this.
I continue to do this for those 2 or so people and most importantly for myself. It’s a great reflection of myself.
Onwards to 2014. I wish you all what I hope for in the New Year.
Endless chances for new beginnings. Success. Love. Friendship. But most importantly, confidence and hope. I’m learning how to be confident in myself and applying that to my life. Even though I’ve felt so much failure in my life up to now, I’m choosing to not dwell on the what could have beens and forge a path for myself. One that will make me happy.
Cheers to all of you, 2014 is the year for us all.
It’s funny, that feeling you get when you know the past year is about to end and a new one is awaiting. There are a lot of things I can take from this past year, one being the saying of “Nothing you want will come easy and if it does, you’re not dreaming big enough.”
So today, December 23rd of 2013, I’m writing down my resolutions list for 2014. Goals, dreams, aspirations and basically anything I hope I can achieve in the new year.
I’m 25 now and though I wish I was further or even done with my education, I don’t regret where I am at in my life right now. I’m my biggest critic and I’ve had many days where I’ve put myself down because I am not where I think I should be. I’ve come to realize that I shouldn’t be thinking so negatively. I’m lucky to have people that I care for remind me that everyone lives their lives differently and goes a their own pace. When I graduated high school, I was no where near ready to go to college and the whole point of this is now I am. One of my resolutions for 2014 is to complete a whole semester of school without giving up, without dropping classes and most importantly do well.
I’ve been a receptionist for the past 4 years and 2 years before that in another company. I love my job and I love the position but to continue the rest of my life working behind the “front desk” is definitely not ideal for me. So I hope that this upcoming year will bring me the opportunity to move up in my company or the opportunity to thrive in another workplace.
In the past decade, I could not have been more blessed to have forged the friendships that I have. This upcoming year I want to spend more time with my friends. You are who you surround yourself with and I’ve realized my friends are one the most important individuals in my life. So this new year, I would like to spend more time with my friends nurturing my relationships and enjoying spending time together.
I’ve also been with my boyfriend for 7 years now. It will be 8 years this upcoming new year. I’d like to say that I’m a great girlfriend. I’m very caring and and loving. However, for all you ladies out there who have had long relationships, you know that after a couple of years it’s too easily done to let your relationship fall at the waist-side because after so many years, you’re just used to having them there. No need to put effort into it. I don’t want to be that way. I love my boyfriend so much that I would never want him to feel like I’ve settled and nothing else is going to be amazing moving forward. So this upcoming year I will make sure to make the small things count and throw in a couple of big things his way too. If there’s one person I want to grow with in my life, it’s him and I want him to know that every day I spend with him is my favorite day.
It’s no surprise to the people who know me very well that I work too much and my dog doesn’t get the attention she needs. Now before you think I’m a horrible owner who neglects her dog, that isn’t the case. She’s very well taken care of. While I’m work she spends the day with my Mother and my Nephew. However they do not give her walks and in result of the treats she receives instead, she’s a hefty but happy Beagle. This year I would very much like to lock down a schedule to help her lose weight. My darling Beagle will be 7 this year and I want her to live a long healthy life.
I’m terrified of the things I cannot control. I want to be able to live my life without thinking of the worst possible things or even not taking chances. So with that said, these are my resolutions. I’m looking forward to 2014.